Handsome! Put-Off?

Whoever said, “Never judge a book by its cover,” was perhaps a very wise being. He knew exactly what he was talking about and was absolutely correct in using the strong word – ‘never’ – to put his message across.
High five, sire!

I have had quite a few experiences in this respect. People Smart-looking, handsome people that I’ve met have often left me speechless in two ways: One, by impressing me beyond words, and two, by disappointing me … beyond words.

There is a quote in the book I’m currently reading:

“Women can resist a man’s love, a man’s fame, a man’s personal appearance, and a man’s money, but they cannot resist a man’s tongue when he knows how to talk to them.”

― Wilkie Collins, The Woman in White

Believe me, it doesn’t get more accurate. A laudable observation by Mr. Collins, I must say! But it also goes the other way round – if a man does not know how to talk to her, he will lose the opportunity to impress. (Experience! Experience!)
But this post is not for dating tips (as if I’m some authority!). Instead, this one is just to share an observation.

You really need events to happen in order to notice the glaring truths. I mean, all of us knew that one should not be judgemental. But how many of us actually practised it? Not many, I dare say. How many times have you written off a person as somebody you’re not interested in getting to know, solely based on his/her looks? And how many times have you followed a good looking person into a café just so you could maybe exchange a glance or an accidental “Hi”?

Somebody who looks good is not necessarily an interesting person. And its not necessary that someone who doesn’t look very appealing will not succeed in capturing your interest through his words or deeds. And I’m so glad I’ve learnt this lesson sooner rather than later.

There have been times when somebody dressed in a smart suit, wearing an expensive cologne, enters the room to tell you (and other invisible souls around you) about why ‘Individualism’ is an outdated concept in today’s world, and makes you all fluttery because you’re oh-so-eager to hear him speak!

And that is when he actually speaks.

He says, “Yo guys! ‘Sup? Y’know, I’m really nervous! I don’t look nervous I know, but boy am I nervous! So I’m here to tell you about why Individualism is -”

[Insert sound of shattering glass]


Yep. Lesson learnt.


9 thoughts on “Handsome! Put-Off?

  1. Your post has impressed me beyond words.. 🙂

    A great topic for a post…made special with your writing and analogies. What you write is very accurate, and while a bit sad that first impressions do matter, I like the title “handsome is the new disappointment”…very creative. Very well done.


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